Is fear controlling your life? Fear. It’s that invisible force that can keep you up at night, hold you back from your dreams, and make you question your worth. But what if I told you fear isn’t your enemy—it’s actually your most misunderstood teacher?
Inside my book, GUIDELINES TO OWN YOUR SUCCESS, I explain how fear quietly controls our choices—and how you can use it to fuel your growth instead of hinder it. But for now, let’s break fear down together and ask yourself, is fear controlling your life?
What Exactly Is Fear?
According to the Cambridge Dictionary, fear is “an unpleasant emotion or thought when you’re frightened or worried about something dangerous, painful, or bad that is happening or might happen.”
In simpler terms, it’s your mind’s way of screaming, “What if?”
And while a little fear is natural—even helpful—it becomes a problem when it paralyzes your progress. If you’re not aware, other people’s anxieties can start to influence your own. That’s why mindfulness is your first weapon. Becoming aware of how fear shows up in your life gives you back control.
As President Franklin D. Roosevelt famously said:
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
NEGATIVE SIDES OF FEAR
Fear can sneak in quietly, then overstay its welcome. When left unchecked, it can:
- Stop you from chasing goals
- Isolate you socially
- Sabotage your health
- Diminish your self-worth
- Even make leaving the house feel impossible.
Worse still? It hijacks your mind, convinces you you’re stuck, and tells you this is all life will ever be. Is fear controlling your life?
POSITIVE SIDES OF FEAR
Fear serves to keep us safe. It sharpens our senses for danger and equips us to deal with it. Formula One drivers and most dangerous sports personalities, for example, use their fear adrenaline to stay focused to win; that’s positive fear right there. It’s perfectly normal and sometimes advantageous to feel frightened. It can serve as a signal of caution and a reminder to take care. You might run to a safer area if, for instance, a car is approaching you suddenly and forcefully. For example, in a snake-prone environment, people with healthy fears have a greater survival rate because they are less likely to be bitten by snakes than people without them.
TYPES OF FEAR
Rational fear is a legitimate, impending threat. Examples: death, sickness, failing an exam, heights, and drowning in water.
Primal fear is ingrained in our minds. Examples: snakes, death, sickness, pain, abandonment, and loneliness.
Irrational fear is one that defies logic and varies greatly from person to person. Examples: flying, dogs, spiders, injections, germs, blood, and dentists.
HOW FEAR IS TRIGGERED
The amygdala, a region of the brain, is where fear first manifests. According to Smithsonian Magazine, the amygdala stimulates areas involved in preparing for motor processes. fight or flight in response to threat stimuli, such as the sight of a predator.
So, it is a mental state of mind that sets off the fight-or-flight response. Equally, it is merely imagined but does cause real physiological, psychological, and emotional consequences. Due to the triggered stress response and how stress responses affect the body and mind.
SOME KEY FEAR FACTORS
Vulnerability: Are you feeling weak and susceptible to being taken advantage of by others?
Future: How are your relationships, finances, and general health?
Personal Safety: How secure do you feel about yourself?
Victimization by Criminals: Do you reside and work in a secure environment?
Failure: Will your current endeavor end in success or failure?
Rejection: Do the people you know accept you for who you really are?
Phobias: Are you afraid of crowded areas, insects, etc.?
Change: Do you need to make any adjustments?
Public Speech: Do you have to speak in front of other people?
Imperfection: Are you too hard on yourself because you think you’re not good enough?
Time: Do you believe the schedule is working in your favor or against you?
Lonely: Do you ever feel you are on your own, even when surrounded by loved ones, or are you alone most of the time?
SOME WAYS TO DEAL WITH FEAR
Some individuals get relief from their anxiety through therapies. Or activities like yoga, meditation, or relaxation exercises.
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BELIEF SYSTEM
Possessing a set of beliefs, whether philosophical, religious, or moral, helps you deal with fear. Invariably, the most effective way possible for your particular belief system
This might help you feel connected to something bigger than yourself, whether you consider yourself religious or spiritual. Attending church and other faith-based gatherings can give you access to an important social support system. Additionally, it gives you a means to cope with daily stress.
Also, discovering your life’s purpose will help you stay focused and lessen your fear. See my blog post about it at https://eea-marketing.com/blog/purpose/ .
For further reading, visit https://hms.harvard.edu/magazine/science-emotion/chill-fear for more information.
CONCLUSION
Fear is not necessarily a bad thing, as we now understand. It has benefits and disadvantages. Our perspective on whether the glass is half full or half empty is entirely up to us. To manage it or handle it as best you can, ask for professional assistance. Consider it a signal to take action or a warning light. You’ll always be better off facing your worries than trying to avoid them. The last piece of advice is to maintain positivity and focus on your life’s mission. Everything is going to be well for you. Good luck. Please click on the image below to buy my book GUIDELINES TO OWN YOUR SUCCESS for more insights: https://books2read.com/successguidelines. THANK YOU.
